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Wedding Ceremony Symbols

I have seen a very cool new trend in wedding ceremonies. For years, the unity candle was the traditional choice for a symbol of the new union. Then came the unity sand, where 2 colors of sand were blended in a container. My issue with that was always about the way the sand was poured. It seemed to me that instead of neatly pouring the sand in an artful and decorative way, the sand should have been poured simultaneously and fully blended to represent the blending of 2 lives. As one minister joked at a ceremony, if the new couple ever wanted a divorce, they would need to separate all the sand back into the original containers before they could file. Clever.

I have seen variations on the unity sand using red and white wine that the couple blends and drinks together, or water from rivers in different parts of the country poured together. I have even seen soil brought from the parent’s homes used to plant a tree by the new couple.

The newest trend is by far the most meaningful and practical, especially to anyone who has been married, witnessing it. It involves a bottle of wine, a solid box, and 2 letters.  The new couple places a bottle of wine in the box, they each include a letter written  to the other stating how they met, what drew them to each other, their hopes for the marriage…a  truly heartfelt love letter, then they seal the box.

As they do this, the minister explains that the wine and the letters are for the future. If the couple comes to a time when they feel  things are hopeless. When they have nothing more to say and feel that the marriage is in danger of ending, they are to open the box, open the wine and pour 2 glasses, then each take the letter addressed to them and go into separate rooms and read the letter as they drink the wine.

Ideally, the combination of the wine, separate rooms to cool off in, and reading a letter written with love from the spouse you are fighting with, should help you to remember why you got married in the first place.  I would take it one step further and at the wedding, include not only a letter addressed to my spouse, but also a copy of that letter for myself to remind myself how I felt that day. Sometimes in a rough patch, that can be the most difficult: remembering when you were happy and why.

If, the couple reaches their 25th anniversary and the box is unopened, then they are to open it on the anniversary and enjoy it.

I really like this new symbol. I believe it something that can truly help a couple work through the difficult times that invariably come in the marriage. So many people don’t realize that marriages are work and while you love your spouse, you might not always like him or her. A wedding should be more than a homily and vows. It should set the tone for the marriage. It should be a solid stepping stone into a new life together.

Wedding Terminology

I would like to address some common questions I get regarding what exactly I do as a harpist during a wedding ceremony.

 

When I am asked for a quote, I always follow my price by stating that the price is for the full ceremony; prelude, processionals, interlude music, recessional, and postlude. Many times I am asked what that all means. Here are some simple definitions.

  • Prelude:  Music prior to the ceremony as the guests are being seated.
  • Processionals: Music the bridal party walks in to. Usually there are 2 pieces chosen, 1 for the bridesmaids, and 1 for the bride.
  • Interlude: The time in the ceremony when music might be needed to fill a quiet moment, ie the unity candle, communion, honoring of the parents, etc..
  • Recessional: Music the bridal party walks out with.
  • Postlude: Music as the guests are ushered out.

Granted, in a Catholic ceremony, there is a great deal more music but this covers the basic service. Most preludes and postludes are about 20 minutes long each. Other music can be added if the bride and groom want a specific hymn or solo played as a part of the service.

I hope this helps to answer some questions about ceremony music and wedding terminology.

Choosing Music for your Wedding Ceremony

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Choosing Music For Your Ceremony

By: Meg Rodgers

You’ve worked hard to plan your dream wedding down to the last detail.  As you go over the day in your head you imagine the hall, your guests and friends, the flowers,  the church, your dress, walking down the aisle to….. silence?  You forgot the music!

This is all too common a scenario for couples.  Unless you’ve specifically dreamed of certain music, it is often the forgotten detail.  Choosing music doesn’t have to be difficult or time consuming and it can add so much to your day.  Three things to consider when choosing ceremony music are: location of your ceremony, your personal style and the number of selections you need.

Location plays a big role in your music selection.  A church or synagogue may have specific rules regarding music selection.  You may be required to hire the organist or may not be allowed to use prerecorded music.  Some places allow only sacred music and yet others are very liberal (I’ve done an all Disney wedding in a church before).  You should always clear your music selections with your minister or officiant before you put a deposit down on a musician or print your programs.

Outdoor weddings offer more freedom in musical styles but may limit your options depending on how rustic the location.  If electricity is needed, that has to be considered.  Also, keep in mind some musicians can’t take their instruments to certain locations or may require shade, certain temperatures, level surfaces, etc…  That said, the beauty of an outdoor wedding is that you can truly have your style reflected in the surroundings you choose as well as the music – be it steel drums, harp, string quartet, brass quintet, or your iPod.

Along with choosing your ceremony location comes the decision to have popular, classical, sacred music, or a mix.  Do you picture yourself walking down the aisle to “Here Comes the Bride” or Jason Mraz?  Or neither?  There are so many options and every bride is different.  If you have dreamed of a stately and dignified processional, then more traditional wedding music might suit you.  If you want a lighthearted feel, then something more modern might be a better choice.  A lot of brides hire musicians and then decide on a musical style at a later time to try and make it fit with the instruments. Sometimes that works and sometimes that doesn’t.  As a harpist, I have played U2, Coldplay, and Metallica as well as other popular choices.  I have heard string quartets play some very cool arrangements as well.  Some combinations don’t carry over well – kind of like listening to Sheryl Crow sing opera or an opera singer sing Sheryl Crow’s music.  Both are good at what they do and both kinds of music are great, but the mix doesn’t do any favors to the singer or the music.

How many music selections do you need?  This is the easiest part.  You will need music for the prelude, processionals (for the bride and bridesmaids), the recessional, and the postlude.  I recommend looking over the ceremony outline and talking to your officiant to see if you need music during the ceremony as well, either between readings, or during a unity candle or sand ceremony.  Most musicians don’t need a list of specific prelude and postlude pieces.  If you tell them the style, they can fill the time with appropriate music. If you want a specific piece as the mothers are being seated, that should be the last piece of the prelude before the processionals.

Despite being a frequently overlooked detail, ceremony music is often one of the most memorable additions to the day.  I can’t tell you the number of people who comment to me how they heard a harp at a wedding and have never forgotten it.  My colleagues in other ensembles say they hear similar comments.  Music helps the ceremony flow along smoothly and seamlessly.  It adds to the beauty of the day as well as reflecting the personal style of the couple.